How Constantly Playing Defense Keeps a High-Conflict Co-Parent in Control (How to Break the Cycle)
Co-parenting with a high-conflict individual can feel like you’re always on the defense. Their accusations, shifting narratives, and...
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Jan & Jillian
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The Trap of All-or-Nothing Thinking in Co-Parenting: How A Rigid Mindset Escalates Conflict and Undermines Collaboration
All-or-nothing thinking, also known as black-and-white thinking, is a cognitive distortion where people view situations in extremes. It’s...
Jan & Jillian
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10 Signs Your Coercive Controlling Ex No Longer Has Power Over You
Dealing with a coercive ex can be a draining and deeply emotional experience. They often manipulate through subtle means, leaving you...
Jan & Jillian
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13 Signs The Children Are Being Emotionally and Psychologically Manipulated by Your Coparent
Emotional manipulation by a co-parent can be harmful to children and can create a toxic environment. Here are some signs that a co-parent...
Jan & Jillian
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11 Things Narcissists Do When They Begin To Lose Control Over You
Divorce is already a challenging process, but when you're divorcing a narcissist, it can become even more complex and emotionally...
Jan & Jillian
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Navigating The Negative Impact of Family Coalition in Divorced Families
Divorce is a challenging and emotionally charged process that impacts not only the couple but also their children. As families navigate...
Jan & Jillian
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Mastering Assertive Communication For Coparenting: Strategies to Shutdown Manipulation
For coparents dealing with a high-conflict coparent, effective communication is paramount in ensuring a healthy environment for both you...
Jan & Jillian
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How To Protect Your Child from Becoming a Pseudo-Spouse
Co-parenting can be a challenging journey, especially when it involves a high-conflict ex-partner. In such situations, the risk of one...
Jan & Jillian
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Breaking Free From Enmeshment and Rebuilding Family Dynamics
Family is often considered the cornerstone of our lives, a source of support, love, and understanding. However, not all families function...
Jan & Jillian
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6 Ways The Narcissistic Co-parent Is Surveilling You
The reasons behind their surveilling is rooted in their desire for control and superiority. By knowing every aspect of your life, they...
Jan & Jillian
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Dating After Divorce: Setting Boundaries With Your Coparent And For The Kids' Well-Being
Many times when going through divorce, if a co-parent has an inferiority complex they will begin dating immediately to fulfill their...
Jan & Jillian
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What Does It Mean To Gaslight (And How To Respond To Your Coparent)
When someone attempts to gaslight you, this refers to a manipulative tactic where they deliberately distort or deny your perception of...
Jan & Jillian
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7 Types of Narcissism And How To Spot Them
Narcissism has increasingly become a very popular word these days for labeling someone’s personality and high-conflict behavior. So...
Jan & Jillian
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Identifying Indirect Psychological Abuse Tactics in CoParenting
While some forms of abuse are obvious there are also indirect or more covert forms of abuse that are so subtle they will go under the...
Jan & Jillian
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5 Must-Have Co-Parenting Communication Boundaries
When it comes to transitioning from a romantic relationship to a co-parenting one, it will be essential to establish communication...
Jan & Jillian
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Signs Of A Coercive Co-Parent And What Lengths They Will Go To Manipulate
Are you constantly questioning yourself? Do you feel like no matter what you say, your co-parent finds a way to flip the script and blame...
Jan & Jillian
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Overcome Your Emotional Triggers: How To Stop Your Co-Parent From Getting The Best of You
Healing emotional triggers can be a gradual and sometimes challenging process, but there are several steps you can take to begin feeling...
Jan & Jillian
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How To Respond To False Accusations From A High-Conflict Co-Parent
If you're a parent dealing with a high-conflict co-parent (HCCP), you know that false accusations can be a common tactic used to get you...
Jan & Jillian
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How To Establish Boundaries With A Partner Who Doesn’t Have Any With Their Coparent
After a divorce, it can be challenging for a person to establish healthy boundaries with their co-parent due to fears, worries, or low...
Jan & Jillian
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10 Signs of Coercive Control In Coparenting
Most people think of coparenting as a situation where two parents work together to raise their children. However, coparenting can look...
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