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The Narcissistic Co-Parent: What They Say vs. What They Mean
Recognizing Manipulation in Co-Parenting Dynamics When you share custody with a high-conflict co-parent, conversations can feel like...
Jan & Jillian
4 min read


The Devastating Impact of a Revolving Door of New Partners on Children
Divorce is already a significant transition for children, but when a parent frequently introduces new partners into their lives, the...
Jan & Jillian
4 min read


The Hidden Wounds: How Children Internalize Financial Stress and the Deep Psychological Impact
Money is one of the biggest stressors in many households, and whether parents realize it or not, their anxieties around finances don’t...
Jan & Jillian
2 min read


Psychological Strategy Questions to Use with a Coercive Co-Parent in Mediation
Mediation can be a challenging process when dealing with a coercive co-parent who thrives on manipulation, control, and distorting...
Jan & Jillian
4 min read


Subtle Signs of Coercive Control in High-Conflict Divorce
Divorce can be difficult under any circumstances, but when one parent engages in coercive control, it becomes an ongoing battle rather...
Jan & Jillian
3 min read


Validating Your Child When They Share Abuse or Coercion from a Coercive Co-Parent
Children caught in high-conflict co-parenting situations often experience emotional manipulation, coercion, and even outright abuse at...
Jan & Jillian
4 min read


The Hidden Burden: How Parentification Affects Children of Coercive Parents After Divorce
Divorce is difficult for everyone involved, but when one parent becomes coercive and emotionally manipulative, the burden often falls...
Jan & Jillian
4 min read


The Silent Invasion: How Coercive Co-Parents Violate Children’s Boundaries
Co-parenting should be about cooperation, respect, and prioritizing the well-being of the child. However, in cases of coercive...
Jan & Jillian
4 min read


What They Lack Shows Up in Their Defense Mechanisms: Understanding Coercive Co-Parenting Dynamics
Coercive co-parents often exhibit behaviors and defense mechanisms that reflect their inner deficiencies. These patterns can be...
Jan & Jillian
3 min read

10 Things Family Court Gets Wrong About Child Rights
Family courts are often viewed as protectors of children’s best interests. Yet, despite their good intentions, they sometimes get it...
Jan & Jillian
5 min read


Children’s Behavior Reflects Their Environment: A Tale of Two Homes
Have you ever noticed how children seem to transform  depending on which parent’s home they’re in? In high-conflict co-parenting...
Jan & Jillian
3 min read


How Constantly Playing Defense Keeps a High-Conflict Co-Parent in Control (How to Break the Cycle)
Co-parenting with a high-conflict individual can feel like you’re always on the defense. Their accusations, shifting narratives, and...
Jan & Jillian
2 min read


The Trap of All-or-Nothing Thinking in Co-Parenting: How A Rigid Mindset Escalates Conflict and Undermines Collaboration
All-or-nothing thinking, also known as black-and-white thinking, is a cognitive distortion where people view situations in extremes. It’s...
Jan & Jillian
3 min read


The Children's Bill of Rights: Why You Need Them in Your Parenting Plan
When it comes to parenting after a separation or divorce, the focus should always be on what’s best for the children and their rights.
Jan & Jillian
6 min read


8 Signs They Are Weaponizing The Children Against You
When divorcing a high-conflict co-parent (HCCP) they may continue harm you through the weaponization of the children. Many times they do...
Jan & Jillian
3 min read


10 Signs Your Coercive Controlling Ex No Longer Has Power Over You
Dealing with a coercive ex can be a draining and deeply emotional experience. They often manipulate through subtle means, leaving you...
Jan & Jillian
3 min read


13 Signs The Children Are Being Emotionally and Psychologically Manipulated by Your Coparent
Emotional manipulation by a co-parent can be harmful to children and can create a toxic environment. Here are some signs that a co-parent...
Jan & Jillian
5 min read


The Hidden Scars of Coercive Control on Children
In the shadows of homes where coercive control reigns, children often become the unseen victims of a silent and insidious form of abuse....
Jan & Jillian
4 min read


11 Things Narcissists Do When They Begin To Lose Control Over You
Divorce is already a challenging process, but when you're divorcing a narcissist, it can become even more complex and emotionally...
Jan & Jillian
4 min read


Why The High Conflict Coparent Struggles With Being Solution-Focused
Coparenting requires a significant amount of cooperation, communication, and compromise. However, when one parent exhibits complex...
Jan & Jillian
3 min read
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