How Constantly Playing Defense Keeps a High-Conflict Co-Parent in Control (How to Break the Cycle)
Co-parenting with a high-conflict individual can feel like you’re always on the defense. Their accusations, shifting narratives, and...
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Jan & Jillian
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The Trap of All-or-Nothing Thinking in Co-Parenting: How A Rigid Mindset Escalates Conflict and Undermines Collaboration
All-or-nothing thinking, also known as black-and-white thinking, is a cognitive distortion where people view situations in extremes. It’s...
Jan & Jillian
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The Children's Bill of Rights: Why You Need Them in Your Parenting Plan
When it comes to parenting after a separation or divorce, the focus should always be on what’s best for the children and their rights.
Jan & Jillian
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8 Signs They Are Weaponizing The Children Against You
When divorcing a high-conflict co-parent (HCCP) they may continue harm you through the weaponization of the children. Many times they do...
Jan & Jillian
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10 Signs Your Coercive Controlling Ex No Longer Has Power Over You
Dealing with a coercive ex can be a draining and deeply emotional experience. They often manipulate through subtle means, leaving you...
Jan & Jillian
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13 Signs The Children Are Being Emotionally and Psychologically Manipulated by Your Coparent
Emotional manipulation by a co-parent can be harmful to children and can create a toxic environment. Here are some signs that a co-parent...
Jan & Jillian
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The Hidden Scars of Coercive Control on Children
In the shadows of homes where coercive control reigns, children often become the unseen victims of a silent and insidious form of abuse....
Jan & Jillian
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11 Things Narcissists Do When They Begin To Lose Control Over You
Divorce is already a challenging process, but when you're divorcing a narcissist, it can become even more complex and emotionally...
Jan & Jillian
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Why The High Conflict Coparent Struggles With Being Solution-Focused
Coparenting requires a significant amount of cooperation, communication, and compromise. However, when one parent exhibits complex...
Jan & Jillian
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Positioning Coercive Control Evidence Against a High Conflict Co-Parent in Family Court
Divorce proceedings involving a high-conflict co-parent can be incredibly challenging, particularly when coercive control dynamics are at...
Jan & Jillian
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Bridging the Gap Between Family Law and Family Psychology When Dealing with Coercive Control
Navigating coercive control in family court proceedings often reveals significant gaps between legal processes and deeper psychological...
Jan & Jillian
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Unveiling Post-Separation Abuse and Coercive Control: Top 10 Signs and What You Can Do About It
Navigating life after a separation or divorce can be emotionally challenging, but what happens when the challenges extend beyond the...
Jan & Jillian
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5 Reasons A Child Is Emotional With Their Protective Parent
It's well-known children caught in the middle of a distressing divorce are going to have emotional and behavioral responses to the change...
Jan & Jillian
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Navigating The Negative Impact of Family Coalition in Divorced Families
Divorce is a challenging and emotionally charged process that impacts not only the couple but also their children. As families navigate...
Jan & Jillian
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Mastering Assertive Communication For Coparenting: Strategies to Shutdown Manipulation
For coparents dealing with a high-conflict coparent, effective communication is paramount in ensuring a healthy environment for both you...
Jan & Jillian
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The 7 Hidden Rules of Toxic Families
Behind the tailored reputation of toxic families, unspoken rules govern the dynamics, shaping the lives of those trapped within. These...
Jan & Jillian
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How To Prove You Are A Secure and Stable Co-Parent
When going through a high-conflict divorce many times the court will look at emotional, physical, and environmental factors that support...
Jan & Jillian
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How To Effectively Coparent With a Narcissistic Co-parent…Avoid This One Mistake
Coparenting with a narcissist can be challenging, but it's essential for meeting the needs of your children. At every turn, they seem to...
Jan & Jillian
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Top 7 Coercion Tactics The High-Conflict Co-Parent Will Use During the Holidays
The holiday season is supposed to be a time of joy, togetherness, and celebration. However, for individuals dealing with a high-conflict...
Jan & Jillian
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How To Protect Your Child from Becoming a Pseudo-Spouse
Co-parenting can be a challenging journey, especially when it involves a high-conflict ex-partner. In such situations, the risk of one...
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