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Jan & Jillian
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Validating Your Child When They Share Abuse or Coercion from a Coercive Co-Parent
Children caught in high-conflict co-parenting situations often experience emotional manipulation, coercion, and even outright abuse at...


Jan & Jillian
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The Hidden Burden: How Parentification Affects Children of Coercive Parents After Divorce
Divorce is difficult for everyone involved, but when one parent becomes coercive and emotionally manipulative, the burden often falls...


Jan & Jillian
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The Silent Invasion: How Coercive Co-Parents Violate Children’s Boundaries
Co-parenting should be about cooperation, respect, and prioritizing the well-being of the child. However, in cases of coercive...


Jan & Jillian
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What They Lack Shows Up in Their Defense Mechanisms: Understanding Coercive Co-Parenting Dynamics
Coercive co-parents often exhibit behaviors and defense mechanisms that reflect their inner deficiencies. These patterns can be...

Jan & Jillian
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10 Things Family Court Gets Wrong About Child Rights
Family courts are often viewed as protectors of children’s best interests. Yet, despite their good intentions, they sometimes get it...


Jan & Jillian
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Children’s Behavior Reflects Their Environment: A Tale of Two Homes
Have you ever noticed how children seem to transform  depending on which parent’s home they’re in? In high-conflict co-parenting...


Jan & Jillian
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The Hidden Dangers of Bribing Your Children: Why Money, Toys, and Trips Aren't the Path to Positive Parenting
In an effort to keep peace, encourage good behavior, or be the favorite parent in a tumultuous co-parenting dynamic some parents turn to...


Jan & Jillian
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Loyalty Binds in Co-Parenting: How High-Conflict Co-Parents Trap Children in Emotional Conflict
In high-conflict co-parenting situations, children are often caught in the middle of their parents’ disputes, leading to complex...


Jan & Jillian
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How Constantly Playing Defense Keeps a High-Conflict Co-Parent in Control (How to Break the Cycle)
Co-parenting with a high-conflict individual can feel like you’re always on the defense. Their accusations, shifting narratives, and...


Jan & Jillian
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The Trap of All-or-Nothing Thinking in Co-Parenting: How A Rigid Mindset Escalates Conflict and Undermines Collaboration
All-or-nothing thinking, also known as black-and-white thinking, is a cognitive distortion where people view situations in extremes. It’s...


Jan & Jillian
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The Hidden Costs of a Vague Parenting Plan: Why Clarity is Crucial
When navigating the complex waters of co-parenting, a well-structured parenting plan is essential. It's not just a document; it's the...


Jan & Jillian
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The Children's Bill of Rights: Why You Need Them in Your Parenting Plan
When it comes to parenting after a separation or divorce, the focus should always be on what’s best for the children and their rights.


Jan & Jillian
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8 Signs They Are Weaponizing The Children Against You
When divorcing a high-conflict co-parent (HCCP) they may continue harm you through the weaponization of the children. Many times they do...


Jan & Jillian
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10 Signs Your Coercive Controlling Ex No Longer Has Power Over You
Dealing with a coercive ex can be a draining and deeply emotional experience. They often manipulate through subtle means, leaving you...


Jan & Jillian
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13 Signs The Children Are Being Emotionally and Psychologically Manipulated by Your Coparent
Emotional manipulation by a co-parent can be harmful to children and can create a toxic environment. Here are some signs that a co-parent...


Jan & Jillian
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Recommended Parenting Time Schedules Based on Child Attachment and Parental Stability
Creating detailed parenting time schedules for divorced parents that consider the developmental needs and attachment stages of children...


Jan & Jillian
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Communicating Collaboratively with a Narcissist: 5 Essential Tips for Holding Boundaries
Communicating with a coparent who is coercive can be challenging. Their tendency to dominate conversations, disregard for the children’s...


Jan & Jillian
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The Hidden Scars of Coercive Control on Children
In the shadows of homes where coercive control reigns, children often become the unseen victims of a silent and insidious form of abuse....


Jan & Jillian
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Recognizing Signs of Instability in a Co-Parent
Co-parenting can be a struggle when one parent is unable to provide stability, security and love following a separation or divorce....


Jan & Jillian
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11 Things Narcissists Do When They Begin To Lose Control Over You
Divorce is already a challenging process, but when you're divorcing a narcissist, it can become even more complex and emotionally...
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