The Hidden Dangers of Bribing Your Children: Why Money, Toys, and Trips Aren't the Path to Positive Parenting
In an effort to keep peace, encourage good behavior, or be the favorite parent in a tumultuous co-parenting dynamic some parents turn to...
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Jan & Jillian
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Loyalty Binds in Co-Parenting: How High-Conflict Co-Parents Trap Children in Emotional Conflict
In high-conflict co-parenting situations, children are often caught in the middle of their parents’ disputes, leading to complex...
Jan & Jillian
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How Constantly Playing Defense Keeps a High-Conflict Co-Parent in Control (How to Break the Cycle)
Co-parenting with a high-conflict individual can feel like you’re always on the defense. Their accusations, shifting narratives, and...
Jan & Jillian
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The Trap of All-or-Nothing Thinking in Co-Parenting: How A Rigid Mindset Escalates Conflict and Undermines Collaboration
All-or-nothing thinking, also known as black-and-white thinking, is a cognitive distortion where people view situations in extremes. It’s...
Jan & Jillian
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The Hidden Costs of a Vague Parenting Plan: Why Clarity is Crucial
When navigating the complex waters of co-parenting, a well-structured parenting plan is essential. It's not just a document; it's the...
Jan & Jillian
6 min read
The Children's Bill of Rights: Why You Need Them in Your Parenting Plan
When it comes to parenting after a separation or divorce, the focus should always be on what’s best for the children and their rights.
Jan & Jillian
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8 Signs They Are Weaponizing The Children Against You
When divorcing a high-conflict co-parent (HCCP) they may continue harm you through the weaponization of the children. Many times they do...
Jan & Jillian
3 min read
10 Signs Your Coercive Controlling Ex No Longer Has Power Over You
Dealing with a coercive ex can be a draining and deeply emotional experience. They often manipulate through subtle means, leaving you...
Jan & Jillian
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13 Signs The Children Are Being Emotionally and Psychologically Manipulated by Your Coparent
Emotional manipulation by a co-parent can be harmful to children and can create a toxic environment. Here are some signs that a co-parent...
Jan & Jillian
7 min read
Recommended Parenting Time Schedules Based on Child Attachment and Parental Stability
Creating detailed parenting time schedules for divorced parents that consider the developmental needs and attachment stages of children...
Jan & Jillian
3 min read
Communicating Collaboratively with a Narcissist: 5 Essential Tips for Holding Boundaries
Communicating with a coparent who is coercive can be challenging. Their tendency to dominate conversations, disregard for the children’s...
Jan & Jillian
4 min read
The Hidden Scars of Coercive Control on Children
In the shadows of homes where coercive control reigns, children often become the unseen victims of a silent and insidious form of abuse....
Jan & Jillian
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Recognizing Signs of Instability in a Co-Parent
Co-parenting can be a struggle when one parent is unable to provide stability, security and love following a separation or divorce....
Jan & Jillian
4 min read
11 Things Narcissists Do When They Begin To Lose Control Over You
Divorce is already a challenging process, but when you're divorcing a narcissist, it can become even more complex and emotionally...
Jan & Jillian
3 min read
Why The High Conflict Coparent Struggles With Being Solution-Focused
Coparenting requires a significant amount of cooperation, communication, and compromise. However, when one parent exhibits complex...
Jan & Jillian
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Positioning Coercive Control Evidence Against a High Conflict Co-Parent in Family Court
Divorce proceedings involving a high-conflict co-parent can be incredibly challenging, particularly when coercive control dynamics are at...
Jan & Jillian
6 min read
Bridging the Gap Between Family Law and Family Psychology When Dealing with Coercive Control
Navigating coercive control in family court proceedings often reveals significant gaps between legal processes and deeper psychological...
Jan & Jillian
4 min read
Unveiling Post-Separation Abuse and Coercive Control: Top 10 Signs and What You Can Do About It
Navigating life after a separation or divorce can be emotionally challenging, but what happens when the challenges extend beyond the...
Jan & Jillian
3 min read
5 Reasons A Child Is Emotional With Their Protective Parent
It's well-known children caught in the middle of a distressing divorce are going to have emotional and behavioral responses to the change...
Jan & Jillian
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Navigating The Negative Impact of Family Coalition in Divorced Families
Divorce is a challenging and emotionally charged process that impacts not only the couple but also their children. As families navigate...
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